I know people mean well (or, sometimes they don’t) but I’m a little tired of getting this question. It’s always during a lull in the conversation and brought up in a cheery, conversational tone that makes me think that it was deliberate. I know that someone saw “the job numbers” on the TV machine and though, “Gee, I wonder if [token unemployed person] has seen these. I’m going to ask them in a bland and non-offensive tone to communicate my empathy for their situation.” Yeah. It’s not working. I don’t look at “the job numbers”, because they can be interpreted in many ways, and because it doesn’t get us a job. We watched them in the beginning for signs of hope, but they never seemed to correlate with our experiences. So, if you want to help the Long Term Unemployed, don’t condescend to us. Just give some resources to your local food pantry, please. Speaking of food…
I try to do one food project each day. We are getting a glut of vegetables from our CSA now, and I’m working hard to keep as much of it as I can for the winter. In the past I have done a lot of boiling water bath canning, and some pressure canning, too but It’s hard for me to think of anything messier, more time-consuming, or hotter. I find myself dreading every canning project, especially after last summers 110# of tomatoes. Yes, it paid off when I ended up with a bookshelf in the basement full of quart jars with fresh tomatoes in them, and I only just ran out of them a couple of weeks ago. But man, that was a lot of messy work. I don’t want to deal with it again, so this year, I’ll be oven roasting and freezing some tomatoes, and packing others in oil. Much easier. I can get one bushel (which is about 54#) of sauce tomatoes for $20 at a local farm. I’m hoping to get two bushels processed before the end of the season.
Today I got a Groupon for $10 for $20 worth of meat from a local butcher, so I jumped on it and drove over there. For less than $50, I got a pound of duck fat, three pounds of freshly ground lamb that they cryo-vaced into individual packages for me to freeze, 2.5 pounds of lamb shanks, 3 ham hocks, and 2 pounds of chicken feet for stock. So everything went into the freezer except for one pound of the lamb that i made into some lamb meatballs with roasted eggplant sauce. Yum. We had everything on hand from our CSA or in the pantry, so it was almost a free meal. That always feels good.
J talked to his recruiter today who had a great job at a growing company with fantastic people that he would be perfect for……in Baton Rouge. I cried. I just refuse to believe that there isn’t something here that he would be great for. He is willing to commute to DC and NYC on the shuttle. He is more than willing to telecommute with some travel to a home office. We cannot afford to sell our home, uproot our family and move someplace with no job market in this economy when they could fire him in a year. It’s not fair. He has a few more resumes in, but he always does. One company who had expressed some interest in him suddenly decided to go in another direction with the job description. At least he got a reason. That’s incredibly rare these days. Usually you send your résumé through an online form, and then the computer decides whether to put you in to the next step or lock you out. If you move on to the essay portion (yes, the essay portion), then you have the opportunity to answer some questions in under 500 words about why you would be a good fit for this job. Then you hit Submit. At this point, you either send it out into the ether with no further information and just wait for a phone call, or as is more likely to happen, you get a generic message saying that you’re not right for this position at this time. Nothing has been reviewed by a human, no feedback is given, you have no one to contact, no phone number, name or interview. It’s dehumanizing and disrespectful and these online HR systems are losing out on a lot of great job candidates. It’s just humiliating. J read today in an article with tips on how to get around these systems that you shouldn’t even say “summa cum laude” on your résumé, and to change it to “high honors”, or your résumé will get screens out as porn! We are not dealing with geniuses here, but there is seemingly no way though this impenetrable HR firewall. Of porn.
Now, I’m off to watch the presidents jobs speech to congress. Fingers crossed for a miracle.
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September 9, 2011 at 4:09 pm
Sally
Amanda, I hope this is no considered condescending, but I saw this on change.org and wanted to pass it along.
http://www.change.org/petitions/monstercom-ban-job-listings-that-discriminate-against-the-unemployed
September 9, 2011 at 4:23 pm
A Slim Winter
not at all! i signed it and im sending it to EVERYONE. thank you, sally!
September 9, 2011 at 5:52 pm
Sally
No problem. I really like Change.org as a way of pushing for change. I don’t want to be intrusive, but have you considered food stamps? I know there is some stigma, but with no income, it is certainly something to look into at least for the short term. I know some farmer’s markets now take them. Just a thought.
September 9, 2011 at 6:12 pm
A Slim Winter
no need to be sorry! im actually going to blog about benefits pretty soon. if you look under the resources section, there is a link to a MA calculator that will let you know which programs you might be eligible for based on your inputs. i will probably be applying for heat assistance, food stamps and WIC for the kids, but we have to wait until our last unemployment check before applying.
September 9, 2011 at 7:11 pm
Jennifer Pennifer
Amanda
I am so freaking sorry it has gotten to this point for you. I know I have said it before but you truly inspire me. How you’ve handled Hazels heath issues, your own health issues, jamies loss of his job, your dwindling finances and lack of prospects, starting your business – all of it. It is heart-wrenching, heartwarming, and frustrating. I wish I could swoop you all up and take care of you, give you hope, give you a break. I know it means little since I cannot do any of those things but I wanted to let you know that I am paying attention and I will keep paying attention and will do my best to never condescend, never stop listening and to let you know as often as possible that you are an amazing woman with an incredible family who deserves nothing but the best. I will keep you in my thoughts and will hope that the news one day soon will include your joyous declaration that a job was found and you can breathe again. Lots of love and hope! Jen
September 9, 2011 at 8:16 pm
A Slim Winter
thank you, jenn! ❤
September 20, 2011 at 2:31 pm
Amy Perry
We had heating assistance last year. It was difficult and humbling for me to apply, but we needed the help. We ended up getting $150, which bought about 50 gallons of oil, which lasted about 3 weeks. So, while it was a free $150, it wasn’t all that helpful in the end. Eh, better than nothing, I suppose. Do you know if they passed the cuts to heating assistance? I heard it might be cut by half, but didn’t hear the resolution.